Sexy little boys and girls

This is probably a common concern, and I'm just late to the debate, but I figured I'd blog about my opinion on society's reaction to sex and juveniles.

Puberty has many stages and most people usually identify just a few obvious ones.  From start to finish, the whole process takes children and turns them into adults.  By adults, i mean that they are able to sexually reproduce.  That process is happening younger and younger as time passes.  From documentation that started back in 1840, girls have been going into puberty 4 months younger every decade.  There has been a recent increase in the age drop since 2006.  There are plenty of studies which say this all results from diet, chemicals, and genetics.  So, in a nutshell, girls are becoming young women about 6-7 years sooner then when anyone started keeping track.  These days boys and girls can reproduce at about 13 years old on average.  (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Puberty)

Now, I'm not saying that 13 year olds are old enough to deal with the consequences of sex, but I am saying that they are going to want to do it and that "want" is as healthy has a hunger for food, a thirst for water, or a gasp for air.  Teach kids about masturbation, make sure they understand the benefits of safe sex, and make sure you parents are giving them love and attention, so they don't go looking for it.

Okay, here is what I'm getting at:  Do you think we have a double standard for boys and girls becoming adults?  It seems like society can't wait for boys to become men, but wants girls to stay girls.  Dads can't wait to show their sons how to shave.  They can't wait for their sons to have the brass balls to ask a girl out on a date.  Buying a boy clothes at a young age so he can look older and impress the girls at school isn't discouraged by anyone... at least i don't think parents try to make young boys look as young as possible.  HOWEVER, ask most fathers what they think about their daughters wearing makeup and flirtatious clothing in middle school, and you will get a totally different attitude.  It's just obvious to me that most parents want boys to become men, and girls to stay girls.

"Sexy" is getting younger and younger.  I'm not talking about the word "pretty."  Children can be pretty or handsome at any age.  Flowers, paintings, and music can be pretty.  You can tell your mother she looks pretty.  But the word "sexy" is a different ball game.  Sexy implies that a person appears sexual, right?  So in my perspective, an eight year old girl shouldn't be made to look sexy with clothing or makeup.  Pretty, yes... sexy, no!  Same with boys, but I think it's less of an issue.  I'm not sure what an eight year old boy could do to his appearance to advertise his sexuality... but whatever it is, eight is too young.  But is thirteen too young for makeup?  You're saying "yes" because you don't want 13 year olds to be sexual.  That makes sense.  But they are sexual.  If not literally, they are mentally.  Regardless of what YOU want, teenage boys and girls WANT to be seen as attractive to each other.  That's NORMAL and HEALTHY!  So, does trying to prevent them from appearing sexy stop them from wanting to be seen as sexual?  Nope.

I guess it comes down to trust.  If you trust your teenagers to make their education their priority, instead of their life revolving around what they think is love, then you probably don't mind them trying to be sexy.  If you think they'll throw away their future's opportunities by being over-focused on sex, then I can see why you want them to stay children.  I guess you need to do what you got to do to trust them.

AIM Porn Conversation

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Ohhh wait. I got a idea. Have you ever watched a girl strip on cam? :-X

Do you get paid by the hour to do this, or is it a commission thing?  Because I'm unemployed right now, and I think I would be good at this.

Welllllll.... Do you wanna watch me strip on cam? ;-)

Sounds delightful, but like I said, I'm unemployed, and since I'm sure you are soliciting porn, I can't afford it.  But again, I'm looking for work, so is the company that you work for hiring?

Yeah? Ok you have to signup through this website that my cam is linked trhough so i cant be recorded ok?

It only takes a second babe and its free. k?

I see by your instant responses that you are probably a computer.  Dang.  I thought I would have been good at this, too.

(website) go there then at the top click on the goId JOlN FREE button ok?

No, i'm affair I can't do that.  You have incorrectly answered some of my questions, and simply not answered the rest.

Also it does ask for a credit card when you signup. But DONT worry

It dosent charge the card at all. Not even a penny. Its just to make sure your over 18. k?

If I told you that I am a hippopotamus with a specially made keyboard made for my giant hippo feet, how would you respond?

K babe well hurry up. When you get logged in then view my cam and we can have some fun :-X

I also have some toys ;-X but you have to tip me some gold or take me in private to see those.

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Hey lets talk on there my aim is messing up.

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I lost My Job

Well part of me likes to think there would be an uproar and a giant mutiny after they fired me, but realistically i know it will just scare everyone into doing exactly what the leadership wants everyone to do.

 

Part of me thinks this was because i went to the bathroom "too much." But, since they cant hold that against me legally, they lumped it together with shortcalls to say it was "work avoidance."  On paper i looked good.  My shortcall % (less then 30 second calls) was great, my adherence and availability was like 99% and i was getting ME's on all my DS's... so on paper they got nothing on me.  SO they just make up problems (that aren't really problems) like "your calls are too short" even though there isn't an expectation given anywhere that says how long or how short a call should be.  And this whole "You need to pull up every account" garbage?  When did that become policy?  Whatever happened to general information calls?  I'm guessing that all went out the window when the company decided that profit was it's first priority.  Either way, they made a new unofficial rule, and i guess it's a fire-able offense.

 

The examples they gave me of short calls i did were fabricated or exaggerated.  I asked to hear the recordings and I was never shown them... obviously.  Was there times i transferred calls to FS without pulling up the account?  Yes.  After i asked if they had any account questions, and they said no, i would transfer them.  And this was something Claudia TOLD ME I could do in early March.  Then yesterday she said she never said that.

 

They didn't like my attitude about NOT milking every dollar out of the customers.  They didn't like that I was smarter then my coach.  They didn't like that I knew my rights and couldn't be bullied into not using the restroom.  So they just created a problem that isn't really a problem and then fired me for it, even after I did what they asked of me.  I have no shame or guilt.  It was in the leaders agenda to silence me, before I gave anyone else the idea that they stand up for themselves, and try to save the customers money.

 

Honestly, the steps I would have needed to take and the hoops that I would have needed to jump through go against my moral code.  It is better this way.  I regret losing a job that paid my bills, gave me a desk, and great coworkers... but I don't regret who I am or how I did my job.

 

There are three kinds of employees:  The kool-ade drinkers, the actors, and the realists.  Which one are you?  Do you honestly believe that the leaders who are responsible for increasing the value of stock really know MORE about what's best for the customer then you; Someone who talks to customers everyday?  Can you at least act like you believe it, even if you don't?  Or do you endanger your job by voicing your opinions and in turn get labeled with a "pessimistic" label?  Honestly, only one of these roles will lead to longevity in this company.  Belief and blind faith can be lost with the right evidence... and independence is the enemy of a blind-faith leadership structure.  If you want to keep getting paid, friends, i suggest you learn how to "act."

Looking for big dudes

I know the subject of this blog sounds weird.  Oh well.

I do a competitive style of Tai-chi called Push Hands and I'm going to be competing in a tournament in September.

I doubt I can cut 46 lbs in 4 months, so I will be competing in the men's heavyweight category (201+).

If you are over 200 lbs, you should come to taichi class with me.

Imagine sumo-wrestling, but with smaller people, and no grabbing or hitting.

Email me, and i'll get you more info.

Fitness Apps

To summarize why I use health apps on my phone is for the convenience and for phone capabilities like GPS tracking, barcode scanning, and the mobile internet connection.
This is why I log my food, pushups, and tai-chi with MyFitnessPal and my outdoor cardio workouts with RunKeeper.

The reason the tracking and logging is important to me, is because I want to share my results with my friends, family, and most importantly my doctors.
This is why I log everything into Google.com/Health

I use MyFitnessCompanion on my phone, because if I'm Checking my blood pressure or getting lab results, this mobile app is convenient.  Most importantly, it automatically syncs the info with Google Health.

I use the 100Pushups app on my phone because it coaches me through doing pushups.  It has helped improve the number I can do.  It doesn't log results, so I have to re-enter it into MyFitnessPal and Google Health.

If MyFitnessPal, RunKeeper, and 100Pushups could all sync with Google Health (the way MyFitnessCompanion does), this would make my life much easier.  I would be willing to pay a chunk of money for that convenience.  Let me repeat that... I will pay you, fitness app companies.  As much as I appreciate your free apps, I will drop you in an instant for companies who sync.  I will pay them too, even if they don't work as well.  So please, take my money and give me that convenience.

Self improvement? Naaaaaa!

Today I forgot to take my pills, so my attitude is different then it should be.

Ever notice there is a lot of goal setting on life?  A lot of goals for 110% and all that?  Many jobs are all about removing the human trend of "flaw" by always recognizing our imperfections and reminding us about our constant opportunities for improvement.

I get the game plan.  Aim for 110% so that you score a 95% and still ace the fucker.  But come on, who wants to always feel like there is always room for improvement... Even if there is?

I get tired of that real fast.  I think because I'm content with being "okay" at stuff.  I don't buy into that "If you're not first, you're last" bullshit.  Everyone can't be the best.  I accept "mediocrity" as a triumph over "sucking."

I'm not saying we should keep doing things that don't work just because we dont want to change.

I don't know what I'm saying.

Ever read the book "Who Moved My Cheese?"  Well, its bullshit.  Read it.  If you like its message, you probably don't get where I'm coming from.  If you think its crap, I applaud your ability to see in-between the black and white world of pessimism and optimism.

This is me without drugs.  Tune in next time when I'm all jacked up on Ritalin and happy pills!

Politics, I guess

I wanted to take a moment to describe myself.  Not my hobbies or stuff like that.  All the stuff I’m not aloud to talk about at family gatherings and in the work place.  I figure it’s only appropriate here, because only people who agree with me with keep reading, and everyone who doesn’t will probably just close this and do something else.  I like to think that I have no definite stance and that I can’t be classified a certain political title.  However; I’m sure you’ll think of names to call me.

1. This is not a Christian nation.  I love that Americans have the freedom to be Christians, any other religion, or lack thereof.  I don’t care if you worship your toaster.  I just don’t want toaster-propaganda taught in public schools or toaster-law given any credit in the court room.  Everyone in America should have freedom from toasters.
2. Abortion is a weird one.  If you think it’s wrong for a religious reason, then your opinion is discredited by my first comment.  If you think it’s wrong because you think it’s killing a baby (not religious) then that’s a fair opinion.  People can argue all day and night about when it’s a baby and it’s not just a sloppy mess.  Where I stand on it is this… and this is just me… I went to one of those “Body Works” things at the museum and it showed different fetuses’ at different stages of the pregnancy.  There were some stages where I said “this isn’t a baby yet” and some where I said “yeah, it’s a baby at this point.”  I don’t remember where that point was, but I would say that point is where I think the difference of good idea and bad idea is for an abortion.  Okay, so that’s all my opinion.  I don’t think the law should be my opinion.  That line in the sand could be somewhere else for someone else, and I don’t think its right to create a law telling people what they can and can’t do with their own body.  Wishful thinking is that both sides could just compromise, like: no abortions after ___ months of the pregnancy, unless the mother’s health is in danger.  That might already be the case, in which nothing needs to be changed… in my opinion.
3. Money.  I’m going to make this as short as possible.  I think the country should act like a team or a family.  This would require we all care a little about one another.  So since that’s not going to happen, I don’t know what the solution is.  Here is my idea for taxes:  We establish how much money is the minimal amount an individual would need to live a comfortable life (I have no idea what would set that standard… lets just call it the “poverty line”).  Then, we tax everyone and equal percentage on the amount OVER that poverty line.  So, a poor person living under the poverty line would pay no taxes.  Someone who makes $1 over that line would pay the same tax percentage on their $1 as someone would pay who made $1 billion over that limit.  That just seems fair.  I don’t know.  Maybe I’m crazy.
4. I think public teachers should have SUCH good benefits and get paid SO much that teachers would be fighting over the chance to be able to teach at a public school in the ghetto.  Then schools could hire the best teachers.  This results in are youth doing better in life, and paying taxes so you can retire someday.  Also, by paying top dollar for top notch teachers, we eliminate the need for private schools, which solves the problem of children being raised to believe that “toaster-facts” are true, just so they get a better education.  And stop cutting the budgets on the people who stop your house from burning down!  That just doesn’t make sense!  Give them as much money as they need!
5. I’m not a racist.  Any political opinion you have that’s rooted in some kind of racism is not credible.  Stop talking. Stop voting.  Stop breathing.

To be Continued…

Twitter, marketing, and shit.

Pretend for a moment that you have a cast on your leg and you're having a hell of a time crossing the road.  Someone offers to help you.  After you're across, you talk briefly and learn they are on their way to their own business... Let's say its a bakery.  In a perfect world, you might consider buying a loaf of bread from them.  If you don't bring it up, they might offer for you to visit the shop.  Maybe they offer to deliver you product, on account of your leg.

It's the perfect sale, and no one knows it.  It just feels like nice people doing nice things for one another.

The problem is if we wait for the perfect scenario to unfold, we'll all go bankrupt.  This is why salesmen are doomed to be assholes.  Salesmen ask for the sale, when the customer doesn't.  When is a salesman not an asshole; when the product/service sells itself.

This is where marketing and advertising comes in... I think.

A delicious loaf of bread will sell itself to someone looking for bread.  The bread needs a salesman for someone looking for new tires.  Marketing is about finding those hungry for bread, and convincing them its delicious.  Then, it sells itself.

Marketing to me seems like the task of making things that aren't cool seem cool... And this act in itself is very uncool.  ...Unless you're presenting cool things for how cool they are.  That seems cool, but let's face it:  everything for sale isn't cool.

Ok.

So I've been giving away CDs of my band for a few weeks now on Twitter.  This is what I do:
1.  I start following people
2.  I engage in conversations.
3.  I offer people my band's CD for free
4. I mail them a CD, Sticker, and a button
5.  Wait and hope for some kind of word-of-mouth buzz to spread, which aids the success of the band's future projects.

I'm not asking for a sale.  I dont imply they owe me anything.  I'm just making friends and giving gifts.

I CANNOT BELIEVE HOW HARD IT IS TO MAKE FRIENDS AND GIVE AWAY FREE THINGS.

There is a catch to what I'm doing, but I would say its pretty mild.  I figure the more free stuff I give away, the more people will like me...  Perhaps they will feel an unconscious need to do something nice for me.  If that feeling leads to higher attendance at our shows or the SALES of future merchandise, that's the "catch."  Not too bad, right?

But go back to the baker for a second.  What if you sensed that the reason they helped you cross the street was so they had the opportunity to pitch their bakery to you... That feels different, doesn't it?

Put yourself in both shoes, I guess.

Anyone want a free CD?

Toying With An Idea

So my buddy Mike Davis and his dog have been living with Desiree and me for awhile now.  I don't know the exact dates.  It was hot out when he moved in.  I know that much.

It's worked out pretty good.  I think we managed to not get on each other's nerves too much.

As many of you know, Mike bought a fixer-upper down the block from me, and has been doing just that for the last couple of months... fixing it up.  But now that he's redone the floors and the walls and installed all new kitchen cabinets, i think he's going to be moving out of our house and into his own.  Probably pretty soon.  I don't know.  We haven't discussed dates at all.

Mike moving out gives me the following reliving feelings:

1. Our dog and cats don't play nice with his dog, so her being gone is probably good for all the animals.
2. Not that I buy a ton of groceries, but it will be nice to get the other half of the fridge back.
3. Hopes of the gas/electric/water costs decreasing by 1/3rd.
4. Hopes of the garbage/dishes/animal crap decreasing, too.
5. We'll have another room in our house to do something with... that's kinda neat!

Mike moving out gave me the following uneasy feelings:

1. Dez and I spend most of our time working to pay for the house we spend the minority of our time in.  Mike being in it kinda made it feel less "wasted."  Honestly, 2 people who own a 3-bedroom house that is used for pretty much sleeping... that just seems like a pretty expensive thing to own and not USE constantly.
2. Mike had an unusual rent system worked out with Desiree and me.  Basically, rather then him pay us money and I hire people to fix stuff around the house, Mike just fixed stuff around the house.  I don't know how (nor want) to fix anything, nor pay for anything to be fixed.  Not sure how stuff is getting fixed, going forward.
3. Mike and I have been great friends since 1st grade, but we don't have much in common besides "hanging out."  We haven't really hung out much lately, and we LIVE together.  I imagine a real effort will need to be made to hang out once he moves... and that's with him moving down the street.

So here is the idea I was toying with... and I briefly ran it past Dez the other day (in case your wondering if I'm blogging this before talking to her)...

We get a new roommate.

Here's the thing.  We're not desperate for one.  It would be nice to collect a little rent on part of a house we have to pay mortgage on anyways, but I'm sure we'd enjoy NOT having a typical roommate more then HAVING one, so it would have to be a PERFECT fit.

What would the perfect fit be?

1. Someone we trust with access to all of our things.  That's the kicker.
2. Someone who knows how to use tools... just in case I attempt to fix something and need help.
3. Someone without pets, OR a pet that plays nice with ours and doesn't damage our property.
4. Someone with reliable income... at least a little.  We wouldn't charge much.
5. Someone that keeps the place kinda clean... not super clean, but isn't driven crazy that we don't always keep things super clean.  We're trying to keep the house clean, and we don't completely suck at it, but we need someone who is just like us, i guess.  Maybe a little cleaner then us wouldn't hurt.
6. Someone who doesn't care that our loud-ass rock band practices in the basement twice a week
7. Someone who can comfortably live out of a small bedroom

Yeah, so this describes a pretty specific scenario, and we understand that we'll probably never come across the perfect roommate... but that's OK, because not having a roommate would be nice, too.

Politics.

I use to be vocal about politics, before I gave up hope of convincing people to think like me.

Someday, this country is going to have another civil war.

It just feels like everyone disagrees on everything.  Opinions are just too different.

What's fair to me isn't fair to you.  No matter what, half the population is pissed.  How do you fix that?

First blog

I'm blogging, but you're not reading, so whatever!

Last night I reached the conclusion that I have issues with obsession.  I think my obsession with celebrities stems from some childhood psychologgical issue... Like, maybe I didn't get enough attention as a child or something.

Or maybe not.

Maybe I just crush hard on pretty ladies of culture.

That makes me feel really bad.  Like, maybe I should be obsessing over my wife.  She would be flattered if I stalked her a little.

Sometimes I wish celebrities were pets.  Like, if my wife and I kept Dave Grohl in a kennel and fed him once a day, then let him sit on the couch and watch TV with us.

Im sure my wife wouldn't mind cuddling with Patrick Dempsy and petting his hair just like she does with our Dog.

I, on the other hand, just want to construct large plexiglass prison cells in my basement, and keep a human zoo of every lady I crush on.

That's what I mean why I say I have issues.  Haha!

You know what?  I'm kidding.  Forget I said anything.

First